It used to be that arranged marriages were entirely decided by family, particularly the male head of the household or system.
But nowadays, arranged marriages are individual couple decisions.
Daycare facilities, though still inadequate in Japan, are also becoming commoner in recent years.
Family is very important in Japan, more important than individual couples.Shinto wedding ceremonies are most popular in Japan, Buddhist and Christian ceremonies much less so.Many women upon marriage retreat from careers and public life altogether, though this is becoming much less common.(First women had to be “obedient,” then they had to be educated simply so that they could be “supportive” of their future husbands.) But those will be addressed in the future. Many of them are seeking low-pay, part-time employment in addition to being a wife and mother. Still others are choosing not to get married and have children at all.For complex reasons that deserve future essays, it’s often more trouble in Japan than it is worth for the modern woman and increasing numbers of Japanese women who want a career are either delaying that eventuality or foregoing it altogether.