Shinto wedding ceremonies are most popular in Japan, Buddhist and Christian ceremonies much less so.Many women upon marriage retreat from careers and public life altogether, though this is becoming much less common. I have a whole book full of complex essays written by Japanese feminists to share with you, and a woman’s status as wife and mother and even daughter-in-law is a major part of their focus, so pretty soon you’ll have more opinions on this subject than you know what to do with.But for now, let’s just start with a basic grounding, while we’re talking about some essential elements of Japanese culture.Women’s magazines are very popular in Japan, and they cover subjects like fashion, childrearing, fortune telling, marriage, show business, cooking, and leisure. Many Japanese housewives take up social activities just to get out of the house.) The rest of these are all pretty typical women’s magazine subjects, mostly covering feminine and romantic topics.
We will also learn later that the ideal Japanese woman, according to the media they consume through shows and magazines on a daily basis, is youthful, girlish, and cheerful.
Daycare facilities, though still inadequate in Japan, are also becoming commoner in recent years.
But women don’t just have to be “good wives and wise mothers” or “do it all super women.” They also have to be sex objects. Japanese women, freed from the expectation of having to work all the time, also seem more able to connect better with society outside work and coworkers than Japanese men.
Husband is shushin, which means “main person,” while wife is kana is “tomboy,” a word often employed by mothers who can’t control their daughters – and if this is anything more than a childish phase, this acting out and not behaving modestly and humbly, things tend to go very badly.
Hako-iri-musume is a young, delicate, innocent flower of a girl brought up perfectly by her parents.