Marriage is contractual; judges express the ideal of love in marriage and proclaim its importance, but virtually no one in the court cases achieves it. But there is much more to rulings; here we are shown how sermonizing judges try to shape society in their own image. Love usually appears as a tragic, overwhelming emotion associated with jealousy, suffering, heartache, and death. Sometimes judges' views about love, sex, and marriage emerge from their presentation of the facts of cases. Judicial opinions that read like salacious romance novels offer a telling portrait of a nation in which love invites misery, sex lacks intimacy, and loveless, sexess marriage is the norm.Among the recurring elements are abortions forced by men, compensated dating, late-life divorces, termination fees to end affairs, sexless couples, Valentine's Day heartbreak, "soapland" bath-brothels, and home-wrecking hostesses. For those who thought love and law were odd bedfellows, think again.It was then that romantic love, associated with freedom and therefore the ideals of romantic love, created the ties between freedom and self-realization. Shumway, in his book Romance, Intimacy, and The Marriage Crisis, states that the discourse of intimacy emerged in the last third of the 20th century and that this discourse claimed to be able to explain how marriage and other relationships worked.For the discourse of intimacy emotional closeness was much more important than passion.A comprehensive body of evidence—2,700 court opinions—describes a society characterized by a presupposed absence of physical and emotional intimacy, affection, and personal connections. Some of them concern criminal prosecutions for rape or murder. West carefully and thoughtfully combs these opinions for discussions of love, sex, marriage, and romance, teasing out what judges think about it all. Anyone interested in the incredibly varied ways that sex and marriage can go wrong will devour every alarming detail."—Laura Kipnis, Northwestern University, author of , Mark D.
After the 18th century, illicit relationships took on a more independent role.For the historical era associated with the arts, see Romanticism. Romance is the expressive and pleasurable feeling from an emotional attraction towards another person.This feeling is associated with, but does not necessitate, sexual attraction.is an entertaining and insightful examination of the courts, pulling eye-popping gems from judges' opinions that speak volumes about their proclivity for peeping, prodding, moralizing and otherwise creeping into the bedroom in adjudicating marriage, divorce, rape, stalking and pornography. West reads these court opinions with care and intelligence (with, frankly, extraordinary care and intelligence)."— J.