Nikki, 33 agrees: ‘I pretty much only date younger men now, which I think is to do with my lifestyle choices of travelling and doing seasonal work.‘I currently have a boyfriend who is seven years younger than me, and so far so good.‘Which then means there’s a weird time when a girl is like I NEED to have kids.And it ends up not working.’ This is a very valid point, but if you’re a woman who’s pretty chill about getting married and popping out babies (hi), then there’s no problem. No-one bats an eyelid if a male dates a younger female, yet a woman goes even a few years below her own age and she’s suddenly a thirsty ‘cougar‘?But she is only a year older than my daughter at 37. Related: Cougars and Their Cubs Oh, I know that sounds crass, and maybe there is love in there too.But think about it: Would you like to be with a woman who is 90? There are wonderful women available at those ages, accomplished, funny, smart, etc.And it works both ways – if you’re mature for your age, then you’ll naturally be attracted to older men.
Women get stick for being the obsessive, crazy sex, but in my experience, it’s the opposite. ‘Younger guys aren’t as forceful or bothered.’ On top of this, the older guys had no chat. My penchant for the younger lad also probably has a lot to do with the fact I’m pretty immature for my age – I was a very late developer so always feel like I’m a good few years behind everyone else.
Plus, research says that women hit their sexual prime later than men,so you may well be doing yourself a favour going younger.
Raff, 27 (who’s in a longterm relationship with someone a year and a half older) points out a major flaw in some older woman/younger man partnerships, from his previous experience.
’ It’s the same with platonic friends too – while working in Sri Lanka, my closest friend was nine years younger than me, and it wasn’t a problem.
She was mature for her age and I was immature for my age. There’s also this misconception that older guys are better in bed. Unless you’re dating 16-year-olds (not recommended unless you’re also a teen), chances are the guy you’re sleeping with will have had a fair amount of experience and if your bodies work together, your bodies will work together.