But when I fell off a high ledge in the garden onto gravel and both my knees were pouring with blood, all he said was "You better get up now." He made no attempt to comfort or help me.” Her husband has been predominantly asexual throughout their relationship and apparently shows very little interest in any physical signs of affection.“So much of my relationship with my husband has been tainted by our lack of emotional communication and the recriminations arising from it: feelings of responsibility, disappointment, my anger at his complete control of our relationship, his fear of my anger, feelings of inadequacy on both our parts, and mutual failure of understanding," she confesses.So naturally, dating is the worst nightmare someone with AS (autism spectrum) could face.I'm going to go up to some person i don't know, ask them out, and go on some highly formalized social encounter, where they are scrutinizing everything about you to decide if they want to keep doing it together.
But be aware that there can be predators and manipulative people online.
By managing her expectations and accepting her husband’s disorder, the anonymous wife insists that she is content in her relationship, but occasionally fantasises about the idea of a love affair.
“From early childhood, people with Asperger’s syndrome are less likely to recognise and understand thoughts, beliefs, desires and intentions of other people in order to make sense of their behaviour,” writes Tony Attwood in , explaining how this will severely inhibit an Aspies’ ability to sustain successful relationships.
Love will always be a confusing emotion to those suffering from Asperger’s, he adds.
“Someone with Asperger’s syndrome may actually perceive expressions of affection as aversive experiences, and a hug as an uncomfortable squeeze that restricts movement, and they can become confused or over-whelmed when expected to demonstrate and enjoy relatively modest expressions of affection.” Whilst touching tales like Bushell-Walsh’s are hugely inspiring, it seems that they might be a rarity, given the typical traits of an Aspies that make it incredibly difficult to maintain a healthy relationship.