Keep in mind that the heart is a very accommodating organ.It can expand to let new people in without kicking out the old residents.Take pause and ask yourself if you would rather your new partner didn't care about his/her late spouse.You might consider the fact that the better the relationship a new partner had in a past relationship, the more he/she knows about how to make unions work.Know what to expect on anniversaries, birthdays and other days that were special to your new partner and his/her late spouse.Being aware and understanding about another person's feelings allows you to be gracious and sensitive to your new partner.
Another alternative, of which I learned from a woman who was dating a widower is that she intended to have two walls of pictures in their new home.
That is very good news for you and your new relationship!
PICTURES OF A LATE SPOUSE Perhaps when you first start dating, there are many pictures of a late spouse around your new partner's home.
Simply ask your questions respectfully, so it is not regarded as prying but as a genuine interest in the deceased spouse and their relationship.
If you pay close attention, you actually may learn many interesting things about your new partner, for example: how he/she views the world; how he/she treats a partner; likes and dislikes, etc.