Two sharp blows that had left her alone in her late 50s. His cancer took him swiftly, before she had time to process what was happening.
It had been over two years since the death of her husband of 20 years; four, since she had lost her mother.
Ask yourself how desperate for a relationship you are. In addition to the warning signs, here are some commonalities among scammers. They are not all over the Internet—you cannot find them on Facebook or any other sites. They must travel overseas shortly after meeting you.
Remember, they have a plethora of these, but not necessarily of these traits. They state they love you before meeting you in person.
When making contact with you, they start by complimenting you on your looks. This is a statement that everyone wishes to hear, but how do you know if it’s real?
Wouldn’t we rather be complimented on accomplishments or what our goals are? Charlatans tell you they love you before they have ever actually met you. Some people can sound great on the phone, but when you meet them there is nothing there; or, physically they just don’t meet your standards. The other part of the “I love you” scam is when they will say something like, “Something in me shifted, and I love you,” or, “I think I have found my soul mate.” Again, they have yet to meet you, and there hasn’t been enough time to know you well enough to truly love you in the way you wish to be loved. There is a reason they wish for you to contact them directly and not use e-mail via the dating site.
Then she saw this guy, the one with a mysterious profile name — darkandsugarclue.
The photo showed a trim, silver-haired man of 61 with a salt-and-pepper beard and Wayfarer-style shades. And something else: He was a "100% match." Whoever he was, the computer had decided he was the one. Then, this message appeared when she logged on to her account. Thank you so much for the email and I am really sorry for the delay in reply, I don't come on here often, smiles ...
Don’t fall for whatever their reason is to write to them directly prior to meeting them in person. They don’t answer the questions asked in your emails. Another indication that something problematic is going on is when there is distance between where you both live — and they aren’t advocating a meeting.
If there are continual excuses, then you know the person doesn’t really live where they say they do, and/or they are not truly interested in you. Yet, scammers will often indicate that they make more than 0,000 a year. Shortly after the introduction, the person asks about your financials as they wish to know what kind of person they are dealing with. They would rather write and they don’t usually answer the questions that you ask. Again, people who have real wealth do not advertise it.
This way, when they get into a jam and request money, the unsuspecting person thinks their investment or loan will actually get reimbursed. In other words, they are really wishing to find out if you are worth their time to scam as you have financial resources to share. So, when a picture flagrantly indicates wealth, one needs to consider if that picture is even real. But, it is easy for a scam to be set up by a foreigner, even one who is not currently in the United States.
successful, spiritually minded, intelligent, good sense of humor, enjoys dancing and travelling. In those first weeks, she exchanged messages and a few calls with men, and even met some for coffee or lunch.
But nothing clicked — either they weren't her type or they weren't exactly who they said they were.