Another scenario: I saw a woman on a regular basis at an activity. Confronted with the news, she became very awkward and didn’t give a clear verbal response (“oh…uh…”).We ended up having a good conversation (abouteverything else), but my declaration was left hanging.She said “I don’t know” and it looked like she was nervous and didn’t know what to do.I backed off physically, but I pressed the point: mostly questions in the “why not? We parted without incident, but met back up at the end of the party (the group was riding back together).You’re not doing anything wrong by asking people on dates, asking them to kiss them, or telling them you like them. You don’t need to push for a clearer answer or settle the question or codify the rejection. If she flirts with you, it’s okay to flirt back, but don’t renew the request for a date or a kiss. Just because you were comfortable with it once upon a time doesn’t mean you have to be comfortable with it when your feelings are hurt. A woman who genuinely wants to look at your etchings will find a way to ask you about them. If someone says no to Thursday, specifically, but yes to the idea, you are cleared to ask again, one time.There are exceptions – I think teachers hitting on their students is always pretty creepy, for instance, and your cute barista smiles that way at everyone because she is trapped at work and capitalism demands her emotional labor – but feeling attracted to someone and asking them about it isn’t creepy. You say you are shy and you don’t have a lot of confidence. You say you aren’t getting clear yes or no answers, so, make your requests for dates or whatever easier to say a clear yes or no to. If it gets super-hard to make plans and it feels like there is never the right time, 1) Stop: “” and (this is key) then he left me alone. Pickup Artists and other dregs at the bottom of the dating pool talk about something called the “shit test” – where women say no to an early request to test to see if the guy will persist, and they encourage you to push back on this early no.” Living with HIV doesn’t mean that you have to live a life without love.These websites and even those who aren’t featured on the list are a great way to connect with other like-minded HIV people looking for love, fun and friends.
I think I’m capable of dating now, and I’ve met a few interesting women to connect with in the last year or so.How do I remember to bow out gracefully in such a moment? Media portrayals of romantic pursuit reward persistence. Go back to being polite and friendly and never mention it again until or unless she does.This is doing you (and many, many, many other people) a grave disservice. You can show that you are safe and trustworthy by being safe and trustworthy. If it gets too uncomfortable for you to be in limbo with someone, it’s okay for you to pull back on the interaction. If a lady really is on the fence about the whole thing and her “” I once suddenly needed to check my mail in another part of campus at two in the morning so I could keep walking in tandem with the gentleman I was walking home from a party with so we could mutually and consensually maneuver ourselves onto the Couch of Let’s Put On Some Portishead Now That I Have My Very Important Postal Material That Could Not Wait For Daylight.Not only is Black Poz a dating site for those living with HIV, but it is also geared towards those who suffer from other none life-threatening STDs like Herpes and HPV.According to its website, thousands of people visit the site daily “to find information, friendship, hope, support and romance.” The site also claims its “the best, most trusted and largest dating site for Black people with STDs in the world.” 2) Poz Match Poz Match describes itself as an “HIV Positive Owned HIV Dating and Social Community” that is all-inclusive.