If we want to take down our profiles and commit, we’ll do it.Which is why, when Maureen and Cassie breathlessly asked me to tell them what to do next, the answer couldn’t be more simple: NOTHING!!!It’s three weeks into dating and his profile’s up, you let it go. Wouldn’t it make more sense to call him, text him, and see him so he doesn’t lose interest in you? All you do when you “nudge” a man to take action is let him know that he’s in control, you’re desperate and needy, and that you don’t trust that he knows what’s good for him. And if he’s receiving texts that say, “Where are you?!
But in order to get a relationship off the ground, you HAVE to put off all fears, all nudging, and all thoughts of your future and just ENJOY the present. By caring whether or not someone calls or texts you right away, you’re putting yourself in a weaker position.The IRS updates the status of refunds once a day, usually overnight, so checking more than once a day will not produce new information.“Where’s My Refund” has the same information available to IRS telephone assistors so there is no need to call unless requested to do so by the refund tool.But sometimes it takes a few weeks for us to figure all of that out for ourselves. But that leaves you with the same burning question: “what should I DO, Evan? Because she enhances my life and doesn’t provide emotional drama when it’s unnecessary.” Ah, the answer couldn’t be simpler: Make your PRESENT so amazing that he WANTS to have a FUTURE with you. Since he CAN’T know after a few weeks whether you’re “the one”, just relax and enjoy the ride.