And now, in a sure sign of the DL's cultural currency, white boys—apparently unsatisfied with having co-opted hip-hop—are claiming to be on the "Down Low," too.
I knew nothing of this until two months ago, when I met my first white guy who claimed to be "on the DL." He was 24, tall, masculine, attractive, and said "bro" a lot.
Three years ago, I wrote a story about black men who have sex with men but don't identify as gay—or even, in many cases, as bisexual.
Instead, they adopted the label Down Low and formed a vibrant but secretive subculture of DL parties, DL Internet chat rooms (Thugs4Thugs, DLBrothas), and DL sex cruising areas (parks, bathhouses).
It is sometimes easy to forget that our sexuality is ultimately about how we love - that our bisexuality is about love, a love that transcends boundaries of sex and gender.
It is not up to others to give us the affirmation we, like all humans need; it is up to us to give that acceptance, love, and respect to each other and then build upon that foundation together.
It's an alluring term for men who identify as butch or masculine.
In Boston, where I live, I saw an ad for a 38-year-old "slightly stocky, hairy and kinky bi married white guy on the down low." In New York City, a 29-year-old Italian looking to "take care of a nice guy" who is "kool and looking for some fun" wrote that he needed someone discreet because he's on the Down Low.If you suffer from a serious mental illness it is important you seek help from a healthcare professional If you think you may have a medical emergency, call your doctor or 911 immediately.Whether you're newly coming out or a veteran bi activist, there comes a point when it's time to stop talking about abstractions and it's time to start LIVING as bi people.The lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer and questioning (LGBTQ) community faces mental health conditions at a rate almost 3 times higher than that of the general population.The fear of coming out and being discriminated against for sexual orientation and gender identities, can lead to depression, post traumatic stress disorder, thoughts of suicide and substance abuse.