Writing about this has helped me get clearer and clearer on this.
To be blunt--I think people who spend their time stressing about the DNA admixture in other people's relationship need to give some thought to boundaries.
We all have a moment, as black people, where we have to stop the process of bemoaning what the world thinks of us, and start asserting that which we think of ourselves. Which is why I find this constant "plight of the black woman" bit bewildering.
– and helped create a complex backstory for an incredibly multi-dimensional character.
And, as it turns out, she – just like the Paul clan – has a fair amount of issues, namely guilt about being absent from her daughter’s life and a struggle to etch out a career as a celebrity hair stylist.
They go to bed with someone who does, or doesn't, think it's a bad idea to blow the rent-check on school clothes.
They go to bed with someone who does, or doesn't, think it's a priority to keep the living room clean.