He said he feels like we know each other well enough that he wouldn’t feel like we were rushing in, and I agreed with him. I am worried about telling my sister, who has recently become a born-again christian and had a lot of horrible things to say about the supreme court ruling on FB.
I’m also a little concerned about telling our other two friends, but I think after the initial shock wears off, they’ll come around.
And how do I figure out if I’m bi or gay, just for my own personal peace? I’m getting a lot of update requests, and Danny just headed home so I figured I’d go ahead and post. First I wanted to say thanks to everybody who commented, you all really helped me calm down and stop overthinking everything. When Danny showed up we were both really nervous and awkward at first.
Anyone who’s been in a serious long-term relationship knows the journey isn’t without certain challenges, and when you’re dating an older man—we’re talking a decade or more—things can get even trickier.
I’m really worried that this will fuck up our friendship. What if he’s been scoping me out this whole time, waiting for his chance to pounce? Also if he decides he doesn’t want to be around me anymore, I’m going to be alone for the rest of the summer. And then what happens if we do decide to get together, become a couple. I’m looking for any general advice regarding sexuality and figuring yourself out as well.
tl;dr: Thought I was straight, ended up engaging in mutual oral sex with a friend that I also thought was straight.
Now, I’m not super duper concerned with slapping a label on my sexuality and calling it a day (thanks to you guys, I appreciate all the advice in that regard!
) but the more I think about it, the more I think that I really am gay, or at least gay-leaning bisexual.