It was probably, because at some point, I ended up making out with these supposed guy friends. ) This Jen Kim Want to know when I write a new post? Sources: "Will Love Last Longer If You Are Friends First? It's all the more confusing when friendship is offered as a consolation prize.
Usually alcohol or loneliness were the culprits of these lamentable decisions. (After all, we are all prone to occasional lapses in judgement.) If you stick to that philosophy, then you can and definitely be friends. Any man knows that to be told by a woman that she thinks of you as a friend is to be told to keep your hands to yourself.
I know that eventually falling for a guy or girl who likes you but has opted for the friendship consolation prize can work, but two people who originally aren't attracted are a lot less likely to get together. I am living proof that you can indeed be friends first. Non-romantic friendship turned into something more. Something more has turned into 25 wonderful years and a beautiful family. We not only deeply love each other, we LIKE each other. I agree with you completely and Kim's article made me very angry - just because *she* has never had a ''friends first'' relationship doesn't mean it's impossible.
In most cases I've seen, one partner has hidden their attraction, whether from the start or after a failed courting attempt, and has been biding their time. And that's the benefit of a foundation of true friendship! I myself fell in love with a guy, and it started with just a friendship, I didn't find him at all attractive when we first met.
That is, friends do not criticize each other in a Parent-to-Child way, although they may give each other advice." In other words, friends don't tend to unilaterally lay down the law on the other person the way parents do with their children.
And especially not before any actual relationship has developed.
Not everyone choses their friends based on a lack of physical attraction or significant others based on mystery or exoticism. It proves that 2 people got on brilliantly and fell in love without the sex part.
If you can do a really good Kermit imitation, I'm yours.
Jealousy and possessiveness occur in all relationships- including friendships.
I've been envious of new friends that supplant old friendships.
Attraction must always be present and must always come prior to any romantic connection.
It doesn't have to be physical, but I think there needs to be something about that person that turns you on.